SETTING UP AN APPOINTMENT

You are NOT Paying for Sex:
Realize that escorts and masseurs don't sell sex. Escorts sell their time, not sexual acts. With escorts, what happens during your time spent together is up to the two of you. It’s that simple. As for masseurs, they sell bodywork, whether it is a light rubdown, a pressure point treatment, a hot-stone therapy, or a fully naked body-to-body massage. If any other activity occurs beyond a massage, during your time spent with a masseur, it has nothing to do with the money you are paying him. It’s that simple.

Since they do not sell sex, escorts and masseurs do not want to talk with you about having sex with them. Not via email, not on the phone, and not face-to-face, during your appointment. In order to enjoy the services of an escort or masseur, you need to learn how to discuss their services correctly. You can pretty much ensure a really bad experience with any service provider if you ask him how much it would cost to have sex with you. And many service providers don't want to talk about sexual acts that you could do to them, or that they could do to you.

The problem is that most people who attempt to associate sex with a fee, when communicating with an escort or masseur, work for government agencies or police departments. Or, they are soliciting hookers. Making this fee/act association will scare a service provider away, and thus, everybody loses. Avoid this mistake at all costs and you will have a great new friend just a phone call away.

To avoid delays in communicating with a service provider, keep your discussion light and fun. Mentioning “acts” might result in your emails being ignored or your phone conversations cut short. However, you CAN ask your service provider what he is into, sexually. Just be sure to make it clear that you are asking this question with regard to his personal life and lifestyle. There is nothing wrong with two adults discussing similar likes, interests and what they personally like in a sexual relationship.

Give Your Phone Number, if Asked:
If you refuse to give a phone number, then you are showing the service provider that you are already being difficult. He may conclude that the session might end up being the same way. Realize that service providers rarely call clients, and if they do, they are very discreet (“Hi, Mike? This is Jet. Can you talk right now?”, or a phone message left on voicemail like, “Hi, Mike, this is Jimmy. Please call me when you have a minute.”) This demonstrates respect for privacy and discretion. There are far too many serious clients out there; it makes no sense for escorts and masseurs to fool around with someone who is withholding basic information like a phone number.
They are not going to harass you or spread your number around. The fact is, most service providers are busy people who don’t want to waste their time with such activities.

If an escort or masseur is unable to determine that you are not a form of oppressive puritan society, then they either will not see you, or they take a chance on meeting an undesirable client, or a member of some kind of harassing government agency. This just makes everything less pleasant. If your service provider did not have to deal with no-shows, police, or bad apples of any kind, this would not be an issue. Simply stated, if you give him your phone number, he will provide better service.

It is actually helpful for most service providers to get as much information as you feel comfortable providing; including your first name, your age, your height, your weight, and your general location. They are going to learn all of this information anyway, so why not get started on the right foot? It makes the whole process run a lot smoother and faster.

The reason why service providers hate blocked numbers so much is NOT because every private caller is calling to bullshit, but because every bullshit call that they get comes from blocked numbers.

How Smart is He?
Uh... we dunno. But you might be surprised to find that many escorts and masseurs are very well educated. A startling number of service providers have advanced degrees, or speak several languages, and are doing this sort of work by choice - because they LIKE it - and not out of dire circumstances. This is wise to keep in mind as you speak with him; he is probably not some downtrodden derelict who has nothing else to turn towards. Speaking with him as a social equal will undoubtedly result in a more pleasant exchange. And although it seems obvious, don't end your phone call by hanging up without saying "goodbye", even if what he offers is not what you want.

Don't Talk On and On:
An escort's or masseur's time is his commodity: it is literally how he earns money. Spending time on the telephone talking about your experience last year with some stud in Barcelona, or your theories on gays, straights and bisexuals, may be interesting for both of you... but unfortunately it takes up his time. Remember, many people hire escorts or masseurs just for this reason; to be able to talk with someone who can converse on subjects like these. Be considerate regarding your conversations on the phone. Use the phone call to gain information about his work, about him, and hopefully, to set up a session. And save the discourse for your actual appointment.