Do not arrive earlier than your appointment time. Many escorts and masseurs are prepping to get ready for their session with you. By arriving earlier than expected, you are rushing your service provider, and potentially starting the appointment off on a bad note. If you arrive a bit earlier than expected, wait in your car or somewhere else (but not just outside his building, most service providers are very discreet, and do not need people lurking about).
If You are Running Late:
Call the service provider, and tell him! It is just good manners to stay in touch like that. Do not assume that if you are 15 minutes late, you can add that time on to the end. If your appointment was from 6pm to 7pm, and you are running 15 or 20 minutes late, then you should still plan to be finished at 7pm. If the service provider offers not to rush, that’s fine, but it should ultimately be his choice. He might have another appointment - even an hour later - and in between he may need to eat a meal, or prepare in other ways for the upcoming session.
This means several things. Make sure your body is not smelly or dirty. Make sure you are cleaned out, inside. Make sure your breath is fresh. And make sure you’re not totally drugged out, or drunk.
If He is Coming to Your Hotel Room:
If the service provider is meeting you in your hotel room, expect him to go immediately to the bathroom to make sure there are no additional “guests”. Do not be alarmed by this. Sometimes clients surprise escorts or masseurs by bringing a friend along without warning (this is never a good idea!!) It can annoy or even scare your service provider, and will destroy the mood. Upon finding no unexpected guests, you can then expect him to lock all of the doors in the room (including sliding glass doors or doors to adjoining rooms). The time you have purchased is for you alone. With all the doors locked, he will have a much easier time concentrating on you, and you on him.
If He is in Your Place, Offer Him a Drink:
But only offer beverages to your service provider which are sealed in bottles or cans. No escort or masseur wants to get dosed with any kind of drug, or have to worry about it, so to avoid this, it’s a great idea to follow the sealed bottle/can rule. If he does accept a beverage from you, expect him to drink it fast, or not to put the container down until it’s finished, due to the above reasons. Once trust is established, or you’re a repeat client, this will not be an issue.
No “Clock Watchers”, but Someone’s got to Keep an Eye on the Time:
Clarify with the service provider who is to keep track of time. Escorts and masseurs handle this in different ways, and direct, up-front communication is best. This way you will know, if you go over your paid time, whether or not you are expected to pay additional moneys/fees. If YOU are to watch your time, then you should be ready to pay an additional amount (should you go over). If HE is responsible for keeping an eye on the time, you are in the clear. Remember that escorts and masseurs work in a service industry like any other, and their time, alas, is money.
If you have a disease, or if something is unusual with your health, tell him up front (ideally, on the phone or in email, before you meet). This includes all kinds of health situations, from an open cut, to an amputated leg, to warts, to a bloody hangnail... hopefully, you get the point. Don’t put the service provider at risk for any STD without his full knowledge and consent. Moreover, do not bareback without getting an OK. Contrary to what you may think, many service providers do not bareback, ever! And just to be clear, do not decide by yourself to remove a condom before a particular activity is finished.
Don’t Videotape or Photograph the Session Without his Consent:
You run the risk of your camera being confiscated, demolished, or simply thrown out the window. You also run the risk of being blacklisted in your community. And you can be absolutely sure the service provider will never see you again.
No Drug Use:
Don’t use drugs in the presence of the escort or masseur, unless this has been previously discussed, or if it is a mutually agreed upon activity.
Treat Him with Respect:
Just because you are paying does not mean you are the only one in control. In fact, your appointment is not supposed to be about control (unless a little leather is involved). DO NOT treat the service person like an object. He is a human being, and he is making his time available to you, as eye candy on your arm, a dinner guest, a travel companion, a drinking buddy, a body worker, or what have you. Treat him as you would have someone treat you, and you are likely to have a hell of a lot more fun. The only time this doesn’t apply is during role-play, providing it is consensual.
A Couple Points for Couples:
Sometimes couples (husband and wife, gay partners, a man and his mistress, etc) like to hire escorts or masseurs. Both people in the couple might be actively involved with the service provider, or it may be only one person within the couple. If you're in the latter scenario, and one of you is planning to watch the session, do so with a degree of sensitivity.
Find out if the service provider would prefer that the person watching remain clothed, or undressed. Either way, don't watch from too close of a distance: no one likes to feel like an animal in a zoo (or an insect under a microscope!). And keep quiet... the session should not involve you talking, if you are the one there to watch. The activity, including conversation, should be between the service provider and the person who is actively involved, unless previously arranged otherwise.